https://dads.hellobee.com/ Hellobee Dads en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 12:02:59 +0000 https://dads.hellobee.com/topic/my-biggest-dad-mistake#post-141 Sat, 08 Sep 2012 20:47:07 +0000 MrMB 141@https://dads.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi guys, some good posts here. As someone who's not yet a dad, but have read Happiest Baby on the Block, it was cool to learn that there are different cries and about the importance of staying cool under pressure/exhaustion. Hopefully things I'll take to heart so I can make other mistakes. </p> <p>Sounds like there were hard lessons learned, but I'm curious to ask how long it took for you guys to master getting LO to sleep specifically after you identified the thing/things you were doing wrong or a new technique (i.e. the 5S's). </p> https://dads.hellobee.com/topic/my-biggest-dad-mistake#post-72 Thu, 06 Sep 2012 23:12:53 +0000 mrbee 72@https://dads.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mr. Coco Bee: Do you have this program? I use it and it does a good job of scanning for malware!</p> <p><a href="http://www.safer-networking.org/dl/" rel="nofollow">http://www.safer-networking.org/dl/</a> </p> https://dads.hellobee.com/topic/my-biggest-dad-mistake#post-69 Thu, 06 Sep 2012 23:05:48 +0000 Mr. Coco Bee 69@https://dads.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: You might be right. I just saw it on a few other sites, probably just me then. I will have to fix it. </p> https://dads.hellobee.com/topic/my-biggest-dad-mistake#post-65 Thu, 06 Sep 2012 22:54:24 +0000 mrbee 65@https://dads.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mr. Coco Bee: I will look into it!</p> <p>Does it happen on ofher sites too? If so, is it possible that you have a virus? That sounds kind of like malware... what browser do you use?</p> <p>Thanks!! </p> https://dads.hellobee.com/topic/my-biggest-dad-mistake#post-64 Thu, 06 Sep 2012 22:49:39 +0000 Mr. Coco Bee 64@https://dads.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I noticed on a few of these threads there are random words with hyperlinks, leading to what look like spam websites. Just so you know. </p> https://dads.hellobee.com/topic/my-biggest-dad-mistake#post-63 Thu, 06 Sep 2012 22:48:52 +0000 Mr. Coco Bee 63@https://dads.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mr. Jacks: haha good to know. I always thought it was cause we don't have the boobs. My son, whenever being held by DW, always just tries to eat.</p> <p>@mrbee: Actually, my son is pretty timid, so he does not really cry as much as he fusses. He only cries, when very upset (either he got hurt/trapped/scared or he is very tired or very hungry)<br /> I have seen that he gives off cues for when he is tired (yawning, rubbing eyes, his eyes get a little red around them, etc.) and when he is hungry, makes sucking faces, moves his head from side to side tries to suck on anything you put near him, etc.<br /> He does not really cry when he has a dirty diaper, but I usually change him pretty frequently, so I may just not have seen it.<br /> There is definately a difference between his scared and extremely tired cry.</p> <p>It definately didn't happen over night, and the more I spent with DS the more I got to know him. I am sure it will only get easier to address his needs as time goes on, as long as I stay attentive. </p> https://dads.hellobee.com/topic/my-biggest-dad-mistake#post-58 Thu, 06 Sep 2012 21:32:43 +0000 Mr. Jacks 58@https://dads.hellobee.com/ <p>One thing that I got out of most of the "baby" literature is that dads tend to be better at soothing a baby because they tend to have a more vigorous bounce and babies like their head feeling like jello. </p> https://dads.hellobee.com/topic/my-biggest-dad-mistake#post-22 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 17:30:37 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 22@https://dads.hellobee.com/ <p>aw! i love the dad thread. and the dad perspective. If only DH was active on the computer. (but then he would have to know english) </p> <p>Ditto on the frustration part. </p> https://dads.hellobee.com/topic/my-biggest-dad-mistake#post-17 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 15:40:40 +0000 mrbee 17@https://dads.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mr. Coco Bee: That's a great point!</p> <p>Can you tell the difference between the various baby cries? That took me a long while, but helped so much once I finally figured it out! </p> https://dads.hellobee.com/topic/my-biggest-dad-mistake#post-15 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 15:38:03 +0000 Mr. Coco Bee 15@https://dads.hellobee.com/ <p>I have not read the Happiest Baby on the Block, but my DW is always reading different parenting and child raising books, so I tend to get the cliff-notes versions of them later on.<br /> We did know about swaddling, sucking(I would use my pinkie(nail down) and DS liked it better than pacifier), shushing and swinging, I did not hear about the side/stomach positions though. That is interesting to know. We read the Dr. Sears books before having DS, and I actually read this (or most of it anyway).</p> <p>Since DW was better at putting the LO to bed, she did it most of the time, until recently. I wish I started helping out with that sooner. It is amazing how overwhelming a simple task of putting a baby to bed is. I wrote down the steps to the routine, to make sure I didn't miss anything.</p> <p>Biggest dad mistake, would probably be getting frustrated with DS when he wouldn't go to sleep. Little did I know, that my frustration was actually making it much harder for him to settle down and go to sleep.<br /> It really helped me to keep in mind that a baby doesn't cry for no reason(usually) and there is a reason for them crying(hungry, tired, gas, dirty diaper, etc.). The reason DS was crying was mostly due to being exhausted and wanting to fall asleep, keeping this in mind that my son was having just as hard a time as me and he wanted to fall asleep just as much as I wanted him to totally changed my frustration into compassion and sympathy, this made those rough nights a lot easier, on both of us. </p> https://dads.hellobee.com/topic/my-biggest-dad-mistake#post-10 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 15:19:35 +0000 mrbee 10@https://dads.hellobee.com/ <p>I should have learned the 5Ss technique from Dr. Karp's "Happiest Baby On The Block" and taken charge of night sleeping. Getting the baby to sleep actually became interesting once I turned it into a challenge of sorts. But b/c I hadn't mastered the 5Ss, I was at a huge disadvantage because I don't have breasts and couldn't put the baby to sleep through breastfeeding.</p> <p>Did you take charge of getting your baby to sleep? What was your biggest dad mistake? </p>